With a new year comes a lot of fresh starts and resolutions for a new way of life.
All my friends seem to be detoxing, juicing or starting vigorous fitness regimes.
But what about having a fresh start with the people in our lives? In particular those who have upset us or wronged us in some way.
It seems the greater the perceived injustice, the harder it can be to let it go.
Your mind can return to the event or conversation over and over again, almost like picking at a scab to feel the pain once more.
Unfortunately, it may be you that is suffering the most.
You may have heard the quote ‘Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die’. And it is true because harbouring resentment is primarily affecting you and not the other person involved.
My friend was bullied at school as a young girl and 20 years later the memory of it still causes her considerable pain.
She is carrying that load around with her and it’s possible the bullying girl in question has never given my friend a second thought.
There is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness called Ho’oponopono.
It consists of the following four phrases that can be said in any order:
“I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you”
Joe Vitale tells the story of this amazing practice of Ho’oponopono.
He said “I heard about a therapist in Hawaii, Dr Ihaleakala Hew Len, who cured a complete ward of criminally-insane patients – without ever seeing any of them.”
He simply sat in his office looking at their files and visualising them while saying the words: “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.”
If you’ve got any old wounds, it may be worth a go.
What have you got to lose?